5 Effective Techniques to Make People Like You  

People are naturally drawn to those they like and trust. By being likable, you’ll find it easier to foster strong, positive connections with friends, family, colleagues, and even acquaintances.

How to make people like you?

When we talk to people, communicate with people, greet people, then it should be a good conversation, good communication. We can transmit our good qualities to them and present our character in a charismatic way.

So, by following these techniques, people will start liking you. They will listen to your words and will respect you. They will have a positive mindset about you and you will be able to change other’s mindset

DON’T SEEM CLUMSY

Most of the time, we move or sit or stand clumsily. We often stand still with our arms folded for a long time, and the rest of the time, we sit idly. We don’t stand straight, we stare here and there. Maybe it feels comfortable. But it’s not a good way.

When you are watching a match and you suddenly stand up for the goal and you raise your voice and give clap, others sitting with you will also do the same. When you laugh too much, your circle will also laugh.

This happens because you’re transmitting your positive energy. So if you act clumsy, then your energy will transmit to others.

Always notice 2 things of body language: Gesture and Posture

When you are moving your hand, face, arms, parts of the body, it’s called Gesture.

And posture is the way you hold your body. It includes how you stand, sit, and lie down.

So make sure you don’t look clumsy. Your gesture and posture are in good shape.

RAISE SELF-AWARENESS

Want people to like you more? Here’s the key: understand yourself! By being self-aware, you become more approachable, empathetic, and a better communicator. It’s a win-win for everyone.

Self-awareness is basically knowing yourself – your feelings, thoughts, and how you act.

For example, some people walk and slip away with carpet or some while speaking, the button of their shirt is undone or you could show up to a meeting with food stuck in your teeth or say something insensitive without realizing it.

We all mess up sometimes. But if you’re self-aware, you can recognize your mistakes, apologize sincerely, and learn from them. This indicates maturity and builds trust.

There are ways to raise self-awareness,

Do you have a mannerism problem? Like saying so, but, oh, yaa, etc. Or not having a good gesture and posture. Or it could be not being attentive to people.

This is all about being self-aware. You have to look around if everyone is listening to you or not. When you’re aware of your strengths, weaknesses, and triggers, you can control interactions more effectively.

You can do a simple task by auditing your life.

First, understand your strengths and make opportunities from them. Secondly, indicate your weaknesses and find threads of your life.

Do a short analysis of your life like this so that you can work on your life. It will strengthen your behavior in life.

LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND, AVOID RESPONDING OR ARGUING 

When we talk to someone, we listen and usually wait to give a sharp reply. When we are communication, our purpose is not to win an argument. Communication is simply sharing information with others. It’s like talking, listening, or even using signs to get your ideas across.

Arguing creates frustration, shuts down communication, and hinders problem-solving.

So if you argue with someone with a common reason, will that person be happy or sad?

Of course sad. He will have a negative thought about you and can talk negatively to others about you. It will make people dislike you.

Therefore, the purpose of your communication is not to reply or argue but to make a meaningful solution. Listen to hear, listen to understand, not to reply.

BE EMPATHETIC

Empathy is essentially putting yourself in someone else’s position. It’s trying to understand how they feel. If someone reads a 48 laws of power book and he wants to share some with you, and you say yeah I know that. That person will get disappointed. Or, if someone shares his emotion with you and you reply “your sorrow is nothing in front of mine, mine is bigger than yours”. By saying all these, your sorrow may not get lessened but that person’s may.

• Try to be an active listener
•  Validate feelings like if your friend loses a game say “That must be frustrating, you practiced hard.” instead of saying “Get over it.
•  Ask Open-Ended Questions like “Can you tell me more about that?” to encourage them to share.
•  Respond with support as it will lessen their sorrow.

KINDNESS IS CONTIGIOUS 

If you are kind to someone, then it will encourage that person will be kind to others. It makes you attractive because it inspires others to be kind too, creating a positive cycle of liking each other. For example, if you talk very rudely with a taxi driver, his day may not go good. He can also be rude to others even with other passengers. But if you talk kindly and politely with a shopkeeper or taxi driver or anyone, it can make their day. They will also talk more politely with others. And it can vary from person to person. There are some simple ways for being kindness with contagious. 

• Smile genuinely: it brightens everyone’s days. 
• Offer positive feedback: for example, “I want to highlight something I admire about your outfit, work, or personality.”
•  Help someone in need.
•  Be patient and understanding. 
• Express gratitude. These acts of kindness are like little sparks that can ignite a chain reaction of positivity, making you and everyone around you feel better.

So, Our table of contents was:

 

1. Don’t seem clumsy.
2. Raise self-awareness.
3. Listen to understand and avoid responding or arguing
4. Be Empathetic.
5.  Kindness is contagious.

 Do these small practices regularly. By following this, people will start liking you, they will have a positive mindset about you. Start following this after reading this. Start with your friend or with your family member, anyone.”